So you angry!
What can you do with that anger emotion?
Anger is an emotion we all feel at times. We are constantly being warned about the damaging effects of anger. In fact, in the modern world, we are cautioned about the emotion of anger as if all the caution in the world will magically transform anger and whisk it away.
We all feel angry at times. I do not mean that anger at the mosquito that stings us and leaves with a stinging pain for a few minutes. I am talking about the type of anger that feels like a blinding light, making us forget where we are for a few minutes, and we have to course-correct and quickly rein in ourselves, or we might do something that we regret. The type of anger that afterwards makes us feel ashamed and sometimes powerless.
Well, the truth is that anger can be a creative force that if harnessed, can give us the burst of energy that unleashes some of our vital creative force. Anger is one of our primal drives, and it is like a fuel cell at our disposal. However, we do not use this energy because we do not know how to harness it. Uncontrolled, it becomes ut destructively sowing fury and fear. The result is that we feel ashamed and others start to fear us.
When you feel angry, note the amount of energy that is coursing through all your cells. What if you can use that feeling to help you achieve an objective that feel hesitant about. It is very easy, to tap into that energy source. So for example if have a potentially difficult conversation coming up and you feel hesitant about having the conversation you can approach it in the following manner.
1. Remember an instance when you were really angry. Think about the situation and the context. place your self visually and emotionally back in that space.
2. Now think about how you felt during that time, remember the feelings and emotions and relive the feelings of anger.
3. Now think about your conversation and visualize yourself having the conversation while that anger energy is coursing through your body. Feel the power in your words, an unstoppable force that is not scared or hesitant.
4. Practice the visualization a few times, and each time dial down the anger element a little lower till you feel more in control of the energy force.
5. When you control the level of the energy, you can have the conversation that you were hesitant about, in a manner that is controlled and you will feel empowered.
This process will enable you to access the energy of the anger without taking on the emotional load. If you do this often, you will start to realise that anger is only an emotion and that you can control all your emotions
, if you choose to do so.
I use this technique when I have to do presentations or when I have to deal with difficult situations where the outcomes are important to me.
What do you think is this something that could add value to you? Try it and let me know?
